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Understanding our emotions

In our culture, emotions and emotional individuals are frequently portrayed negatively. According to popular belief, "feelings are unreliable and should not be trusted." Emotions tend to ebb and flow in response to our surroundings, sleep quality, and even the weather. But we all have emotions, and God/Mother Nature gave them to us with a reason.In many circumstances, our emotions are a signal. They are telling us, "Hey! "There is something that requires your attention here!" If we disregard our emotions, we miss out on opportunities to take action or make adjustments that will improve our general well-being.

Identity crisis

Almost everyone, at some point in their life, will ask themselves, "Who am I?" There are similar questions behind this one: "What makes me unique?" … "From where, or from whom, do I derive my value?" … "How much of my worth as a human being is dependent upon my contribution to the world?" These are questions about identity. Making an accurate assessment of who we are is crucial to our mental health. In an effort to discover who we truly are, we might ask ourselves certain questions to evaluate whether we're moving in an unhealthy direction: 1)Are you often comparing yourself to others? 2) Is it upsetting to find out that someone dislikes you? 3) Do you always wonder what others

4) Are they thinking about you? 5) Do you feel like you're trailing everyone else in the race for value?

Do you spend a lot of time on social media, scrolling through "highlight reels" of friends and celebrities and feeling like you don't measure up? In our search to understand our identity, we might get engrossed in constructing and sustaining a fake identity in order to shelter our hearts from shame, worries, uncertainties, doubts, and perhaps anxiousness about being recognized for who we truly are.

Angry heart

Anger may be a strong emotion. It might prompt someone to speak up against injustice or strike out violently. It can drive someone to advocate for the reform of an unfair system or to kill anybody who opposes. It may either motivate us to strive for and defend our connections, or destroy them in an instant.One of the functions of our emotions is to provide us a notice that something requires our attention. The sudden or gradual appearance of rage in our souls indicates that an injustice has happened and must be uncovered and remedied.

The Guilt and Shame Cycle

According to Brene Brown, a social researcher and author, "shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging." Shame tells you that you are undesirable, unlovable, and undeserving. There is a significant distinction between shame and guilt: guilt focuses on conduct, whereas shame focuses on identity. Guilt says, "I made a mistake," but shame says, "I am the mistake." Guilt implies "I did something bad," but shame says "I am something bad."

Bitterness of Sorrow

Sorrow is a profoundly distressing emotion brought on by loss, disappointment, or other suffering.It is the melancholy that comes with loss, whether it be the death of a loved one or seeing a prodigal kid explore. It could be the inability to snuggle a kid into bed each night due to divorce. Sadness arises when a season of our lives comes to an end, whether it is saying goodbye to a job we have enjoyed or sending our children off to college knowing they will never need us in the same way again. Sorrow occurs when we have great expectations for something in the future and it never materializes. When someone we care about fails to meet our expectations, we experience sadness.

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